Look after yourself – so you can take care of the things that matter

From all of us at Living Well at Home Ltd, we wish you peace and prosperity.

We are taking a short break until Monday 4th January 2021.

In the mean time you can enjoy our Advent Calendar until January 6th 2021, read our blogs, download our free checklist or book one of our services with the special 15% off discount code: OneTogether15

(Discount Code Valid for all bookings or purchases made on or before February 14th 2021)

Is your home HAPPI?

Grand Designers and Home Refurbishers – Is your home the right kind of HAPPI? [No, that isn’t a spelling mistake]

HAPPI is is a design code of 10 principles for a healthy, social and comfortable home life.

HAPPI homes have plenty of light and space with a focus on healthy homes.  They also integrate accessible age friendly design features like bathrooms with walk-in, curb free showers. Although the HAPPI reports are primarily focussed on the shared living environments like retirement communities, most of the principles hold true to individual homes too:

  • Space and flexibility
  • Daylight in the home (and in shared spaces)
  • Balconies and / or outdoor space
  • Adaptability and ‘care ready’ design
  • Positive use of circulation space
  • Plants, trees, and the natural environment
  • Energy efficiency and sustainable design
  • Storage for belongings and bicycles
  • (External shared surfaces and ‘home zones’ – for communal living)
  • (Shared facilities and ‘hubs’ – for communal living)
HAPPI – A home with plenty of natural light and views to nature

To learn more, visit the HousingLiN’s HAPPI homes pages.

And remember, we can help you make sure your dream home is a future-proofed home and age-friendly through our range of design review services. There is something there to suit every budget.

Tip 1 – Talk to your relative or loved one if you are worried about them

Tips to help your older relatives.  Tip 1: Talk to them and find out more about their hopes, plans and aspirations.

Tip 1: Talk together

Use your time together this winter to find out what they are thinking and feeling.  Your relative may be keen to reassure you that they are fine and don’t need any support or help, even if you think they do. There are many reasons why this happens, including:

  • They may not want to worry you or to be a burden.
  • Ageing is an organic process.  Your relative may not realise that they are accommodating some of their own (or their home’s) limitations.
  • They may worry that by admitting that they need some help  that they will have to move out of their home.  [With some small adjustments this is often not necessary] 
  • Genuinely though, they may be fine – it might be you that is worrying!

The Press certainly doesn’t help, with its often negative stereotyping of age and dependency in old age. And so, your relative may be genuinely frightened of losing their independence.  Moreover, they may feel they are losing recognition for who they are and what they have achieved in their lives.

A wise, green-fingered 90-year-old friend of mine has a saying that rings true for most circumstances:

You can’t move a plant before it is ready. If you do, it won’t thrive ….. it is just the same for people’

Your loved-one is an individual with choices

Asking open questions and listening to your relatives hopes, plans and aspirations for the future is a great starting point.

You may think that your relative would benefit from a little extra help around the house or other forms of support. But remember, it is better to discuss this with them and allow them to make the decision to themselves. 

Sadly we have seen so many older people being spoken to as if they are a child, or don’t have a valid opinion of their own.  It rarely works well when people try to force ‘solutions’ onto an individual that is living independently. 

 A little posititivity goes a long way….

If you have ‘heard the stories a thousand times already‘, that may be because they cherish that part of their life.  Try asking them more questions about the story, you might be surprised about what else you learn! 

By focusing on the positive side of your loved-one’s life, you are showing them that you recognise them as an individual and not as a ‘problem to fix’. 

This is the same when it comes to the here and now.  Focus your conversations on what your relative can do and what they enjoy rather than asking or telling them what they can’t do.

Engage your loved one in positive conversations about their lives. Ask open questions that allows them to tell you what they love to do, and perhaps what they would like to do in the future.  They may even tell you what they can’t do anymore.

If they do open up to you, resist the temptation to dive in with a solution that you think is best.  Work with your relative to explore the options available.

If you aren’t sure what to do next, call your relative’s GP or their Local Council’s Adult Social Services team.  Everyone has a right to ask for a Social Care Needs Assessment.

Click here to read Tip 2

Live at Home for Longer into Later Life

Planning-home-for-later-life‘An Englishman’s Home is his Castle’ – castle, house, bungalow or narrow boat – it doesn’t matter what shape it is, just so long as we can call it home.

Our home is part of our identity, we choose it (for the most part), furnish it, decorate it and choose who we let into it.  We know our neighbourhood and all the good places to go nearby.  Home is the place that we love and know the best.  So why should we have to leave all behind that when we get older?

Throughout our lives our needs and aspirations change – and we just expect our home to flex and adapt with us.  Sometimes we outgrow its four walls and sometimes it outgrows us.  But what we don’t expect is for our home to stop us living the way we want to – but that is what can happen as we get older –  Steps become a challenge, the bath edge is a bit too high and the floor a bit too slippery, the garden seems a lot bigger than it did 20 years ago and reaching the top of the kitchen cabinet is a little bit more precarious.  It is not our fault or something we did, its the natural process of ageing – and it is the home that is no longer supporting us.

Luckily with some small adjustments, and occasionally some larger adaptations you can unlock the potential of your home to let you live independently, comfortably and safely in the home you love for much longer.

Living Well at Home Ltd is here to help and please enjoy the pages of this blog and our website http://www.livingwellathome.co.uk and look forward to your independent future.

Emma and the team